How to Talk to Your Doctor: Scripts for Black Women Who Are Tired of Being Dismissed

Research is clear and ugly: Black women are less likely to have pain taken seriously, less likely to be referred to specialists, and more likely to leave the doctor's office without a clear plan. Until that changes, we walk in prepared.

Before the appointment

• Write down 3 specific symptoms (when they started, how often, how bad).
• Write down 2 questions you want answered.
• Bring a list of every medication and supplement you take.
• Bring a friend or family member if you can — witnesses change behavior.
• Wear something that makes you feel like yourself.

Scripts that work

• "I have three specific things I want to address today. Can we make sure we get to all of them?"
• "I want to understand what is causing this, not just treat the symptom. What are the possible causes?"
• "Can we test for ___? I would like that on my chart."
• "I would like that documented in my medical record."
• "I am not comfortable with that plan. What are the alternatives?"
• "I would like a referral to a specialist."
• "I would like a second opinion. Can you send my records to ___?"
• "Can you say that in plain language? I want to make sure I understand."

When you are being dismissed

Say out loud: 'I want it documented in my chart that I reported these symptoms and you decided not to test for them.' Most providers will then run the test.

After the appointment

Always request your visit notes and lab results through the patient portal. Read them. If something does not match what was said, message the office.

Finding a better doctor

BlackDoctor.org, Therapy for Black Girls (therapyforblackgirls.com), and the National Medical Association directory can help you find providers who look like you and listen to you.

For educational purposes only. Not medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider.